Wednesday, January 9, 2008

Keeping track of people

A friend of ours was also our real estate agent when we moved to Washington from Idaho in 2006. He was very kind, personable and easy to work with. In fact, since he and my husband were friends from childhood, we kind of tried to renew that friendship after we got settled, especially after we learned that he and his wife were expecting their first child. Well, it didn't take me long to quickly conclude that perhaps they weren't as interested in that idea as we were, since they didn't bother to follow up with us or return our phone calls after their baby arrived. I purchased gifts for them that were never given because I assumed they were not interested in having any sort of relationship with us.

Imagine my surprise when, out of the blue, a few days ago, we get a call from him asking "how we are." My theory originally was that my mother-in-law mentioned to her close friend (this person's mom) that we were moving again, and she mentioned it to him and he thought, "Oh, I should call them!" But my husband claims this is not the story he got. I guess our "friend" claims he lost our phone number and meant to return our call after his son was born, but was really busy, and then forgot, and you know the drill. New baby = no spare time. So it was actually his boss who learned that he'd been doing a shoddy job of keeping in contact with all his former clients and made him go look up the numbers in the computer system and check to see how everyone was doing. My husband says that the best word to describe the tone of the call was "sheepish." Yeah, I'll buy that for a dollar.

I don't know if I buy the whole story, especially because if our phone number was in the computer system the whole time, why didn't he just look it up while he was at work? Hmmm. Sounds suspicious. Perhaps his computer ATE the phone number, and then miraculously it reappeared.

Anyway, I thought of this story while reading about real estate software because I was imagining purchasing some and sending it to him as a kind of light-hearted joke with a point behind it. Like, "look, now you don't have any more excuses!" Ha ha ha. As if I had an extra $150 lying around to spend on a sort-of friend ... but if I actually were a real estate agent and needed the software for my job, I'd get it in a heartbeat. That's a pretty good deal, considering there's no monthly subscription fee to operate it once it's purchased.


Hyperfertile Infertile said...

I wanted to comment just to say that you're not the only person saying it might be a good idea to pump every two hours around the clock! I hope I didn't make you feel bad! It seems like there is no one answer when it comes to pumping, but I guess there is no one answer for babies either :)

thesynergizer said...

Hi Jody!

Thank you. I really appreciate this comment, because I did feel pretty bad. I did see what someone else said about the 4 hour block of sleep, and that's a good point too. Perhaps you could pump a teensy bit more often in the morning when the milk is at its highest to make up for the skipped one. Like if you slept from 1 a.m. to 5 a.m., you'd pump at 5, 6:30, 8, 9:30, 11, 1, 3, 5, 7, 9, 11, and 1 a.m. You get your 12 pumpings in, AND you get your block of sleep to help your hormones level out. And you'll make more milk in the morning anyway, from the sleep, AND from the increased frequency of pumping. And probably from the cookies as well. :-)

If nursing at the breast pushes into these times, you would just do the best you can to stay on track. It's true that the babies are going to be more effective than the pump, but if they are still topping them off, you'll probably end up losing ground on the milk front. I highly recommend, as soon as its allowed by the NICU, getting them weighed before and after each at-the-breast nursing to find out how well they are doing. If the answer is good, then you can eliminate any pumping that was replaced by a nursing. And don't let those lame NICU nurses tell you that it's time to stop nursing or time to switch sides or whatever. All the good milk is at the end and babies come off the breast on their own when they are done. Your job is just to keep them awake and latched on right! :-)